The Unattainable “Normal”
“There is no standard normal. Normal is subjective. There are seven billion versions of normal on this planet.”
In a world of eight billion people (as of 2024), there’s no standard definition of normal. Anxiety, joy, sadness, introversion, and extroversion are all variations of normality. By embracing these variances, we can foster a sense of belonging and understanding. Accepting that normal is subjective creates a more inclusive and supportive community.
The need to compare ourselves with others has created a society that often values conformity over individuality. People share only their “best life” on social media—the holidays, their achievements, fun times, and loving families. When we compare our everyday reality to these carefully selected glimpses of others' lives, we risk feeling inadequate or falling short of what is portrayed as normal. We focus on what we lack compared to others and, in doing so, we forget our unique strengths and accomplishments.
The danger of comparing ourselves to others diminishes when we realise that normal is a spectrum, not a rigid standard. Our wellbeing is enhanced when we focus on self-acceptance and celebrate the diversity of experiences that make up our unique version of normal. Instead of striving to fit into a narrow definition of normal, we can embrace our individuality and find strength in our differences. This shift in perspective challenges the idea of a "normal" that is unattainable for many.
Finding your version of "normal" involves acknowledging your individuality and recognising that there is no one right way to exist in the world. By embracing your unique traits, interests, and values, you can discover what brings you joy and fulfillment. By being true to who you are, you not only find your own sense of normalcy but also inspire others to do the same.
However you define your own normal, remember that embracing your uniqueness not only empowers us to live authentically but also encourages others to do the same. When we let go of the need to conform to societal expectations, we open ourselves up to a world of possibilities and opportunities for growth. Instead of striving for a one-size-fits-all version of normal, we can celebrate the multitude of ways in which we each contribute to the tapestry of humanity. In doing so, we not only find peace within ourselves but also create a more inclusive and compassionate world for all.
Disclaimer: The content of this blog post is intended for informational and educational purposes only. It is not intended to provide medical advice or replace professional counselling. If you are seeking personalised guidance or support for mental health concerns, please reach out to a qualified mental health professional.